Wedding planning used to be entirely up to the bride. The groom was just expected to show up and say his vows. Now, however, many men want to have their say on how things should be done on the big day. If you have a groom that wants to give his opinion on every little detail of your big day, here are some ways that you two will both get a say and maintain a spirit of compromise.
1. Sit down and write a list of the things that you both want for your special day.
Even if you and your man seem to be on the same wave length most of the time, it is very likely that you have different visions of what your wedding day will look like. Both of you sit down and write a list of the things that you want for your wedding day. Then go through your list and mark the top ten most important things that you want. After this, look at your lists together and decide what elements can be eliminated or how you can incorporate something from his vision with something of yours. By planning the event together, and involving the groom as much as he wants to be, you will have the benefit of less stress and a wedding that you’ll both love.
2. Be fair.
If you are mostly using his money to pay for the wedding then you need to allow him to have a large amount of input. It would not be fair of you to ask him to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding that he hates. It’s a special day for both of you. If he is taking on a majority of the debt or he is emptying his savings account for your big day, allow him to make most of the final decisions when it comes to the things he cares about.
After you get married, you will have to become well versed in the art of compromise for a happy marriage, so it is best to start during your wedding planning. If you are in a stalemate over the music selection for your wedding or for the color of the centerpieces, make a compromise. Allow him to have his green and yellow centerpieces if he will allow you to have the Backstreet Boys cover band play at your wedding.
If you really are unable to come to an agreement, take a step back. Think about what is really important — your vision of being pulled by a horse drawn carriage — or being happy as you begin your life with your future husband.
Having your groom heavily involved in the planning of your wedding may feel like a lot more work, but sharing the demanding job of planning a wedding will create less stress and allow you to grow closer together as a couple in the months leading up to your big day. If your groom wants to help in the decision making, let him. His ideas may surprise you! By working together you can make the journey to becoming husband and wife uniquely yours as you start your lives together.